You can’t afford any of the following:
1. You can’t afford to compare yourself to others
The grass may look greener on the other side of the fence, but maybe that’s because it’s fake. Don’t believe the perceived perfection of people’s lives that you see on Facebook. It is not all as it appears. Stop comparing your path to others. I know people who are constantly comparing their success to others’. This is a sure way to drive yourself mad. You are not in competition with them. You are only in competition with yourself.
2. You can’t afford to hate your body
You will just make yourself feel awful if you compare yourself to people whose careers rely, at least partly, on their looks. Does yours? And don’t think it doesn’t come with a lot of personal training, Botox, surgery, tanning salons, high-priced hairdressers and, yes, PhotoShop.
Treat your body with respect and appreciate all it does for you and remember it’s not all about how you look.
3. You can’t afford to hang on to the one who got away
Whether it was that job you wanted or that person you thought you were meant to be with, you need to let it go. It was not meant for you. Years ago, when I was at the hairdresser’s, I read a magazine article that basically said “if he’s the wrong guy, you can wear the most flattering clothes, best-smelling perfume, be witty and cute and smart … and he won’t care. But if he’s the right one, you can have spinach in your teeth and your skirt on backwards and he’ll think you’re adorable.” This applies to jobs as well as to relationships. If you didn’t get what you want, it’s not because you weren’t good enough. It just wasn’t meant for you. And maybe you are meant for better.
4. You can’t afford to worry about things out of your control
Can you think of a time when worrying actually made the situation better? I know, I know, easier said than done, but it’s certainly something to think about. Show up, do the work, be present. That’s what you have control over and it’s a lot more constructive than worrying.