We really care about the person we’re with so we’re willing to do everything for them. But a good sign of a solid relationshipis if they’re willing to do the same for you in return (without you asking for it).
So, how do you know when you’re giving too much? When is enough, enough?
1. You’re smiling less when you’re alone.
The one person you can’t hide your feelings from is yourself. It’s easy to convince those around us that we’re happy with the situation we’re in and with our partner. Of course, no relationship is 100 percent perfect, but if you begin to feel down when they’re not around (and not because you’re missing them), this could be a sign of your true feelings coming to the surface.
2. You’re even reading this article in the first place.
Even though it is difficult for us to sift through our own emotions at times, it is an integral part of a happy life and relationship. We are the only ones who truly know what we’re feeling inside our own heart and mind, and if you find hesitancy like this poking through your consciousness, it’s probably a red flag.
Reciprocity is key, and if you’re questioning whether or not your partner is putting in their best effort, the answer is probably no.
3. You feel emotionally exhausted.
A solid relationship should enhance your life, not complicate your life. You should feel energized by the other persons’ presence in your life. Inspired. Motivated. Excited. If you are mentally and emotionally drained, you may be sacrificing your own well-being for the sake of an unhealthy relationship.
4. You’re losing sight of you.
Do you feel like more of a servant than a partner? If you are always working to make your partner happy but rarely or never see the effort reciprocated, it’s very easy to lose sight of your own wants and needs because you’ve become too caught up in theirs. I’m all for being loving and giving at all stages of a relationship, but it’s important to make sure that it goes both ways.
5. There would be voids if it wasn’t for you.
Voids in things to do together, voids in physical intimacy, voids in conversation. If you are always the one who is suggesting activities, initiating physical contact, or taking care of things around the house, then you probably already realize that you’re carrying the relationship and giving too much of yourself away.
Happy, healthy relationships are a team — and like any good team, each player has their strengths which fit together like puzzle pieces with the other players to create a strong partnership. If one player doesn’t carry their weight, the team will lose.
6. You jumped into commitment before they were ready.
I’ve seen people dive head first into a relationship with someone, swear off all other members of the opposite s*x right away, and end up hurt. They think that giving their entire being to the other person will make them return the sentiment and love. It doesn’t. It needs to come naturally from both sides.
7. You worry about losing them and keep trying harder.
If we begin to feel someone slowly slipping away from us, some of us may find it natural to try harder and to put more effort in to keep them around. Often times, this does the exact opposite and pushes them away.
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